The Forty-Day Journey of Promise
Day Nine: My Spirit Is Free!
Note: Welcome to The Journey, our forty-day blog series from MLK Day through the end of Black History Month. We’re learning life lessons from the legacy of African American Christianity. The series is based upon material from my book Beyond the Suffering. To learn more about Beyond the Suffering, including downloading a free chapter, click here.
You May Enslave My Body, But You Can Never Enslave My Spirit!
Some historians have depicted the African American male and the African American father as beaten down by enslavement and racism, and therefore incapable of functioning as a positive role-model in society and the home. The slave narratives and interviews tell a very different story.
One ex-enslaved person recalls his enslaved father’s character.
“I loved my father. He was such a good man. He was a good carpenter and could do anything. My mother just rejoiced in him. . . . I sometimes think I learned more in my early childhood about how to live than I have learned since.”
All he ever needed to learn, he learned in his enslaved home—from a father whose spirit was never enslaved.
Will Adam’s father, a foreman on a Texas plantation, always came home exhausted after a long day’s work. However, he never failed to take his son out of bed and play with him for hours.
Martin Jackson, enslaved in Texas, and interviewed there at age ninety in the 1930s, remembers his father always counseling him. Over half-a-century later, Jackson notes that his father’s reconciling advice and guiding prescriptions still ring in his ear. Among samples he includes:
“No use running from bad to worse, hunting better.” “Every man has to serve God under his own vine and fig tree.” “A clear conscience opens bowels, and when you have a guilty soul it ties you up and death will not for long desert you.”
Clearly, these sons honored and respected their godly, wise enslaved fathers.
Mother Wit: Victors Not Victims
Mothers, too, left a lasting, positive impression on their children. Lucy Dunn was ninety years old when Mary Hicks interviewed her in Raleigh, North Carolina. She shares the standards and premarital counsel that her mother provided when Lucy fell in love with Jim Dunn.
Because purity was so central to her family, Lucy’s mother would not allow Jim to walk Lucy to the gate unless she was sitting there on the porch watching. After a year, without ever having kissed, Jim finally proposed—asking her mother for Lucy’s hand in marriage. Mother told him that she would have to talk to Lucy and let him know.
“Well all that week she talks to me, telling me how serious getting married is and that it last a powerful long time. I told her that I know it but that I am ready to try it and that I intend to make a go of it, anyhow.”
The next Sunday night, her mother informed Jim that he had her permission to marry her daughter. He was so excited that he picked Lucy right up out of her chair there in the moonlight on the porch and kissed her right before her mother who was crying with joy. The next Sunday they were married in the Baptist church at Neuse. Lucy had a new white dress, though times were hard.
Lucy offers a beautiful testimony concerning their marital relationship.
“We lived together fifty-five years and we always loved each other. . . . And though we had our fusses and our troubles we trusted in the Lord and we got through. I loved him during life and I love him now, though he’s been dead for twelve years.”
Her mother’s protection of Lucy’s purity, her pre-marital counsel, and her interaction with Lucy’s future son-in-law all strikingly display how enslaved African American families were victors, not victims. Lucy and Jim’s marriage, for richer for poorer, for better for worse, in good times and bad, provides a shining example of marital fidelity.
Join the Conversation (Post a Comment for a Chance to Receive a Copy of Beyond the Suffering)
1. What can we learn about freedom of spirit from men and women whose bodies were enslaved, but whose spirits could never be enslaved?
2. What relationship commitment lessons can we learn from Lucy’s mother, Lucy, and Jim?
I’ve been inspired by this series to remember that despite feeling enslaved by chronic pain, which is far different than being slaved by man, to be all I can in Christ. Nothing can enslave our spirits, especially if the Holy Spirit is present in our lives, that is nothing except us.
It is my prayer that I will be the kind of mother, wife, and daughter that Lucy was.
Thank you for another educational and insightful post.
Great article! As I look around I see the pain and enslaved spirits of America. It may be guilt for enslaving or feeling victimized by being enslaved, whichever it is our PAST. The past must be remembered, recognized and put in its place. A place of LEARNING and GROWTH! It is the cards that we have been dealt and we should be and feel obligated to play our hand to the best of our ability (in which God has provided–beautifully and wonderfully made). We must not get wrapped up into why do I have this hand (whoa is me), but feel free in knowing the hand we have, knowing what we have to work with, feeling blessed that we have been giving the limited resource of life, and being free to make IT work! When we get trapped into staring at our hands, our lives, and wondering why, it immobilizes us from moving and from being free. Our life become a distraction for living. When we do not move we never find out how just how wonderful a hand that we have been dealt and that God made. God is AWESOME he takes a little and will makes it WONDERFUL.