Biblical Counseling and Mature Femaleness

God designed us male or female—not only in body, but also in the core of our soul. All that we do, we do out of a soul that is either male or female. That includes our counseling of others. Thus, we minister to others most effectively when we counsel from our unique maleness or femaleness.  

Today’s post considers what it looks like for a woman to counsel out of her femaleness. The next post ponders what it looks like for a male to counsel out of his maleness.

Counseling/Ministering Out of Your Mature Feminine Soul

Deep Relaters

The opposite of depth is being shallow, surface—allowing your counseling relationship to remain above the surface. The female counselor allows herself to touch soul-to-soul with her counselee. She is inviting and open.

Relational Restorers

Mature females so respect their counselees that they say, “You are capable of being a godly woman. I will not only weep with you, I will also expect maturity of you.” Mature women counselors do not retreat. They are restorers of relationships. 

Vulnerable Ministers

The mature feminine counselor is the adult sister who is willing to sacrifice in order to minister. She is willing to pay the price to serve in the counseling relationship.

Refuge Givers

Refuge giving is not babying or smothering. As an adult woman you are involved strongly enough that others experience the warmth of your emotional embrace.

Caring Nurturers

A mature female counselors is involved deeply enough to water her counselee’s thirsty soul with the vitality of her life. The female counselor is not cold, hard, rigid, predictable, overly analytical, or overly intellectual.

Pure Encouragers

A godly female counsels out of purity of motives. Rather than focusing on how she can keep her own selfhood intact and protected, she will focus on encouraging her counselee. She will draw out and affirm her counselee. 

Tender Responders

A godly female counselor can experience the pain of another person without being swallowed up or overwhelmed by that pain. She is “huggable,” yet neither weak nor tough.

Join the Conversation

What are your reflections on these characteristics of female counselors? What characteristics would you suggest for femaleness in counseling?


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