A Word from Bob: I’ve collated today’s post from The Annual Guide to Biblical Counseling Resources: 2020 Edition. This guide provides 230 pages that collate 920 biblical counseling resources. Learn more about The Annual Guide or purchase a copy here.

For the Pastor/Counselor/Helper 

Adams, Jay. Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the Bible

If the church is going to use the Bible to decide whether divorce is legitimate in certain cases and whether divorced couples have the right to remarry with the approval and blessing of God’s people, then the Bible must be studied without prejudice toward a particular answer. The author examines the relevant passages in both the Old and New Testaments so that his readers can consider the many issues and interpretations that arise in trying to establish a consistently biblical position.

Newheiser, Jim. Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage: Critical Questions and Answers

Jim Newheiser explores forty crucial questions relating to the complexities of marriage, divorce, and remarriage—unpacking the answers given in God’s Word. This useful reference work for pastors, counselors, and personal study can also be read straight through for a scriptural overview of the topic or assigned in small sections to counselees.

For the Individual/Counselee

Baker, Amy. You’re Divorced: Now What? 

You may have grown up in a Leave It to Beaver type home, with two parents who loved each other and worked hard to teach you right and wrong. Or perhaps you grew up in a home full of strife. You may have determined at a young age, “I will never let this happen to me.” And now here you are. What you thought would never happen has happened. You’re divorced. Now what?

Grissom, Steve. Divorce Care: Hope, Help, and Healing During and After Your Divorce

Encourages anyone struggling with divorce to seek healing through Christ, no matter what stage he or she may currently be going through, offering insight and personal testimonies from those who have found healing in the midst of their pain.  

Priolo, Lou. Divorce: Before You Say “I Don’t” 

This hard-hitting booklet is designed to persuade people who are pursuing divorce—on other than biblical grounds—to reconsider their plans. Lou Priolo lays out the consequences of an unbiblical divorce and refutes nine common justifications that he has heard in his many years of biblical counseling. He also addresses the issue of being “in love” with someone other than one’s spouse.

Priolo, Lou. Picking Up the Pieces: Recovering from Broken Relationships 

When a romantic relationship is torn apart, it can wreak havoc in the lives and emotions of everyone involved. The pain is all the worse if you were not the one who wanted the relationship to end. You can find relief even when you feel forsaken, because true healing comes from the One who will never forsake you. If you are hurting after a broken relationship, here is much-needed counsel and biblical guidance to lead you away from heartache and into a healthier, happier, and holier relationship with Christ.

Rooks, Linda. Fighting for Your Marriage While Separated: A Practical Guide for the Brokenhearted

In this practical, gospel-centered book on the subject of separation, men and women who are separated but hopeful for restoration will discover life-changing truths about God, themselves, and their marriages. Fighting for Your Marriage While Separated by Linda Rooks explores practical answers for men and women in the midst of a marriage crisis. From diving into topics such as relationship dynamics and healing, protecting children, and praying for restoration, to deciding on boundaries and learning to live with the same spouse in a new marriage, Rooks illustrates what rebuilding a marriage looks like—and how the sweet intimacy of Christ is in the waiting.

Smith, William. Starting Over: How Not to Screw Up Your Next Relationship

Your last relationship didn’t work out. You got hurt, and maybe you also hurt someone else. Now what? Perhaps you are thinking about starting over with someone new, but you’re nervous and wondering if you are really ready for another relationship. In Starting Over, William Smith tackles head-on the issues you need to face as you think about starting a new relationship: past hurts, learning to trust someone new, and understanding your own failings and mistakes. You will be reassured that God is at work in your life, and that growing in your trust and love for him will free you to love well those he puts in your life. 

Smith, Winston. Divorce Recovery: Growing and Healing God’s Way 

The pain of divorce has many different faces: the end of your hopes and dreams for your marriage; a life full of unwanted changes; and the daily struggle with a mixture of grief, fear, guilt, and anger. Is recovery possible?  Winston Smith, using biblical principles, guides you through the unsettling changes you and your children are facing and gives you specific directions for facing each day. You will discover that God is with you, right in the middle of this painful situation. God delights in restoring what is broken. He will heal your wounds and grow you in new and surprising ways through this hard time.

Join the Conversation 

What additional biblical counseling resources would you recommend regarding separation, divorce, and remarriage?